If you listen carefully, you may hear that youth with anxiety put themselves down, feel that they don't measure up to expectations, worry a lot about failure, and need much reassurance and extra encouragement to take on the tasks that their peers are completing. Parents often notice the things that their son or daughter are not doing such as organizing friends to get together, taking on internships or tasks with enthusiasm, dating, laughing, pushing back against curfews, and family rules that teens are outgrowing, and talking with enthusiasm about school or college. All too often, parents find that they are staying too involved and doing too much for their adolescent or young adult, as compared to their peers. The parents remain overinvolved so that their son or daughter won't miss out on important life events, but then wonder "When will they do this on her own?”