Overview

Self-esteem is a person's core belief about themself. A person's self-esteem is reflected in their actions, both in how as well as what they do. Although self-esteem varies from time to time, the pattern usually leans toward a healthy or unhealthy view of self. With healthy self-esteem, a person is more likely to succeed in life.

Although building self-esteem is a lifelong process, the foundation of self-esteem is established in childhood. That foundation can do much to help a child deal with difficult life issues as they are encountered.

Parents have the greatest influence on a child's belief about themself. Letting your child know that they belong, are doing well, and are contributing can help them develop healthy self-esteem.

Keep these things in mind as you raise your child.

• Children sense that they belong by the way their parents talk to them and act toward them. Show and tell your child that you love and care for them.
• Children learn about how well they are doing by how their parents react to their behavior. Offer praise to children when they show positive behavior, and provide them with correction when mistakes are made.
• Children learn how to work with others by learning how to cooperate within a family. Give your child some age-appropriate household responsibilities.

Keeping a journal can help as you work to build your child's self-esteem. Each day for at least 3 weeks, write in your journal the specific ways you helped your child develop a sense of belonging, learning, and contributing. After 3 weeks, review your notes to see your child's progress and to find new ways to help your child.